Last Saturday week, a highly defamatory article about me appeared in the Daily Mail based solely on comments attributed to my former wife.
The article was a catalogue of smears and distortions stitched together by a tabloid journalist who specialises in TV, celebrities, women’s features and gossip. She also has an anti-Christian agenda. Just over a year ago, she wrote a sycophantic piece exalting the pro-paedophilia campaigner Peter Tatchell. In April this year, she gushed over the first two lesbians who have jointly put their names on the birth certificate of the baby born to one of them.
The article led to another in the Guardian which pointed out the Mail’s hypocrisy. The Guardian sought my comments on the allegations they were to reprint, and as a result, they printed just one allegation, but for their own good reasons omitted my denial of it.
From what people are sending me, the article about me is not the first time a bitter former wife has cast a jaundiced eye over her past marriage and indeed invented allegations about her ‘ex’.
I have never had a wish to cause my former wife distress by producing in public a catalogue of her conduct during our marriage and the divorce proceedings she brought, which were concluded four years ago, even though that would cast things in a very different light indeed.
It is always distasteful when dirty linen is washed in public, despite the media thirst for such material. Nevertheless, I must address the two most specific and serious allegations that have appeared.
Firstly, I never once had sexual relations with my former wife against her clearly expressed wish. Secondly, in connection with the published allegations that I assaulted her, the truth, sadly, is the complete opposite. I had to obtain a harassment order against her to stop a campaign of intimidation and on one of the occasions when she assaulted me, I reported the matter to the police and she received a police caution.
None of us is perfect, we are all sinners saved by grace, but I sincerely tried to lead my marriage and household in a loving and responsible way, and one which was faithful to the Lord. There are things I dearly wish I could have done differently, but sadly none of us can ever start from somewhere different from where we are.
There are those who will object to remarriage after divorce. Many years ago I was led to see that scripture provides for such a situation in the case of adultery or when one party walks out of the marriage. In the first chapter of Genesis it is written: ‘It is not good that the man should be alone.’ It cannot be of God that a vengeful ex should be able to gloat over the enforced single status of his or her former partner. There is more that could be said on this matter, but this is neither the time nor the place.
My wife and I have been greatly honoured by the many messages of support during this difficult time. Christian Voice members in particular have been typically generous in their comments and realistic in their view of ‘the press’. Above all, we have been humbled by all the prayers which have been made. We are very grateful to all who have held us up in this way and at such a time.
P.S. Please read: Psalm 51:3, 103:10-14; Prov , ; Isa ; Micah 7:5-10; Matt -36; John , 8:7; Romans 8:1,34; 2Tim .